Western culture seems to be obsessed with what is 'normal'. This is particularly pronounced when it comes to how much sex one should be having...

This month’s post is about Eroticism, the little known but essential ingredient for sexual pleasure.

Is scheduling sex beneficial to a relationship? The pros and cons of maintenance sex are discussed in my latest post

When desire discrepancy becomes a reality in a relationship, it tests a couple’s ability to work as a team

Making the decision to have couples counselling is a huge step for many people to take. Here, I address some commonly asked questions about the therapeutic process.

Why do people stay in relationships which no longer meet their needs? This month’s post explores the well-known and not so well-known reasons.

Learn about the benefits to you and your relationships of accepting disappointment

My last blog post of the year looks at how a couple’s inability to work through angry feelings has the potential to create a barrier to sexual and emotional intimacy,

This month’s post is on Secondary Inhibited Sexual Desire and the significance of the relationship and role of the couple in the development and maintenance of this issue.

Intimate relationships are often a way for people to seek validation and self-worth. In the absence of self-love, this can be problematic. My latest post looks at how we can learn to meet our own needs for love and connection from within.

The pervasive presence of social media set high standards which many of us attempt to live up to. But does perfectionism help or hinder our sex life? Find out from my latest post.

We all want to be happy but few of us have ever considered the cost of overly focusing on the importance of happiness. In the last post of 2021, I look at what it truly means to live a rich, full and meaningful life.

“Safety” is an oft bandied word but a poorly understood concept. In this month’s post, I explore the nervous system’s role in helping us determine what it really means to feel ‘safe’ with another person.

Raw spots…we all have them. This month’s post looks at what happens when a tender spot in our emotional skin gets rubbed by our partner and vice versa.

My latest post tackles an interesting dilemma. Should you stay in a relationship if you have low or no sexual attraction to your partner?

You used to find your partner sexually attractive but not anymore. In this month’s blog post , I explore some common factors which underlie the loss of sexual attraction in established relationships and offer tips for rekindling the spark.

This month’s post is on fantasy wishes. The idea was derived from Dan Wile’s book, After the Honeymoon in which he talks about using fantasies as clues to the existence of emotional needs.

In recent years, much has been written about the therapeutic benefits of mindfulness so much so that it has gained popularity as a practice in daily life. In this month’s blog post, I discuss the principles and practice of mindfulness and look at its application to the enhancement of sexual arousal and overall enjoyment of sex.

Social isolation measures to stem the spread of Covid-19 has undoubtedly had a huge impact on people's emotional lives including an increased sense of loneliness. This month's post explores how sitting with loneliness can be a source to greater connectedness.

In part 2 of my post on sexual desire, I examine the physical, psychological, relational and social factors which drive and influence libido and look at what it really means to be sexually compatible with our partner.