Sex Positive Psychology provides face-to-face counselling for individuals and couples in Sydney’s Hills District.

Please note that the St Leonards practice is now closed

 

2A Hannah Street
Beecroft NSW 2119
Tel: (02) 9980 1400
Fax: (02) 9980 1405

 

Suites 2-4
Berry Road Medical Centre (CLOSED)
1A Berry Road
St Leonards NSW 2065
Tel: (02) 9437 3906
Fax: (02) 9906 5900

Appointments


Simply ring or email us if you would like to make an appointment or discuss how we may be able to assist you. When you contact us, we will make an appointment at a convenient time for you. Weekday evenings and Saturday appointments are available. 

If you wish to speak to May or require further information, please do not hesitate to contact her at  may@sexpositivepsychology.com.au 

 Medicare and other rebates


If you have a mental health care plan from your GP or other specialist medical practitioner, you will be eligible for a Medicare rebate for up to 10 sessions per year.

Many health funds also offer rebates for the cost of therapy sessions. Please contact your health insurance provider to find out the extent of your cover under the policy.

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